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About Me: I am the creative person behind Ribbonwood Cottage. A mother, wife and grandmother. My goal in life is to leave a lasting legacy to my family that life is incredible. God gave us this one life and it is worth the journey! A believer. A pianist, church music and worship director. Focused on intentionally living the best life possible.

August 6, 2009

I'm a real cut up...


Hello everyone! What are you up to this week? I'm cutting up....apron strings....at first I couldn't find the scissors...purposely hidden in drawers, under couches...but alas I had to find them to finish what all mothers have to do. I'm cutting the apron strings and crying every step of the way.There just isn't an easy way to do it. It hurts, it's lousy, I don't like it. With every step I am making I am thinking how much I don't want to do this. But I do realize kids going to college is an every day life experience. I just seem to be a cry baby with my last one leaving. Hubby is no help either, he's as bad as me if not worse. Yesterday he said "I can't imagine our house without kids in it." I'm boohooing just thinking of it.

(photo by Leanne's House)

Thank goodness for all you sweet friends who have posted comments the last few weeks. You've left the sweetest words and encouragement. I do take those to heart. Many of you have said you are either going through the same thing or have been through this phase and it does get better. I pray it does....cause right now it is hard.

Blessings to you all
Debbie

"I have relied on you all my life; you have protected me since the day I was born. I will always praise you." Psalm 71:6

13 comments:

onlymehere said...

My baby is a Junior this year so I face this same dilemma in two years. After raising four kids I can't imagine no one being here. I fear I won't be a good empty nester. I guess we just need to find a "new normal". Good luck. It will be interesting to see how you cope. Maybe your experience will help me through in two years. Cindy

Darlene said...

I can't even imagine how hard that is. Remember all your blogging buddies always have our arms around you to help you through.

I will be a basket case!! Thank goodness Lexi is only 10 but those first 10 years have just flown by!!!

Terri said...

Debbie,
It's gonna happen here on August 15th. I go back to work on Monday so that should keep me otherwise occupied until next Saturday when we head out to campus. But I'm still dreading seeing that empty room!

Neabear said...

It is hard. First my son moved away to Florida in 2000. Daughter went to college in 2002, but she was about an hour away so that was not so bad. However she spent her college summers working at church camps, so she was gone longer in the summer. At school we could see her about once a month or so and attend her plays and whatnot during the college years. Then she got a job in Iowa and moved there in 2006 and has lived there since. Now I have really long spans without seeing my kids. It is hard. It is going on a year soon since I saw my daughter and over 2 years since I saw my son. I so wish we could travel so much easier to see them, but it is too costly for us to do that very often. It does get easier, but I think of my kids often. I have to admit that I get depressed often about no longer really doing my Mom role. It is kind of hard from long distance. Same with the Grandma role. I don't even feel like a Grandma most days since I am not around to see my granddaughter grow up. Sometimes I feel like is passing me by and I am not allowed to enjoy it. I have to force myself to enjoy it. Anyway, there are lots of up and down emotional feelings and several years later after the kids move out I am still having issues with them. I wish you the best and know that you are not alone with the emotions you get when your kids go away.

Denise said...

((HUGS))

It does get better! Eventually! LOL

We only had one and she had a baby when she was a teen. Whey they moved out, it about killed me. I felt like I "lost" both of them at once.

I got better and now it is the norm!

XXDenise

Ceekay-THINKIN of HOME said...

Oh Deb, sorry it is so hard right now....but really it does get better. We love seeing our kids, spending the day with them, but then they go home and we still have our time, our ways, less cleaning...more time with the hubs....just grieve now and give it time....you Will grow to like it.

Beansieleigh said...

While I still have a teenage son at home, I have a taste of what you're feeling! I have gone through letting her "go"... to college. Why?.. Because Dear Daughter's education is necessary and VERY important!.. But she has graduated already, is working towards her masters degree... and NOW she is moving into her own APARTMENT!.. NOT because it is necessary.. NOT because of her education.. NOW it is by CHOICE! This was just recently a whole NEW bitter pill to swallow!.. A brand NEW "growing pain" for Mommy! So I STILL shed the tears, but she STILL comes home for dinners, and calls all the time! I really can't ask for more than that! I figure "I must have done something good" for her to keep doing THAT!.. And I thank God for that and all my blessings! Take comfort and take care... ~tina

Colleen/And Baby Makes Five said...

BIG HUGS to you, Debbie... I'll be a blubbering mess one day too. This year I'll have a 3rd grader, an all-day kindergartener, and a two-year old. It hardly seems possible.

I'm sure you'll be okay eventually and get used to the new routine. If you need a kid fix, just pop on in.

Here's wishing you all good things as a new adventure begins for your family...

Rechelle ~Walnuthaven Cottage~ said...

(((hugs)))
it's hard for us mother bears as we watch out cubs make their own ways. Been there and done that and sooo understand how you feel.

Linda - Behind My Red Door said...

Oh Debbie - I remember those days. It was so hard thinking about and I cried a lot too. Then after the initial shock wore off, it didn't take us long to realize we could have a second honeymoon with the house to oursleves - that was fun!! The kids were home for the holidays and vacations and summers and it got to where we loved it when they were home and loved the alone time when they were gone. The circle of life....

hugs, Linda

Tammy ~ Country Girl at Home ~ said...

Well I'll say a prayer for you Debbie because I know I would be the same way. I know it's a new chapter....but it probably won't be too long before you have the laughter of grandchildren there. Take this time to date your husband all over again! :)

By the way, I'll learn from you because my day is coming!

Hugs to you!
Tammy

~Lesa~ said...

Saying prayers for you to find some comfort. Hugs.

Anonymous said...

Debbie,

I know exactly how you feel about sending your kids off into the unknown. Both of my sons joined the Navy at 18. I missed them a lot but I loved their commitment and they both came back men. The hard part for my husband and I was getting used to being alone. That's when we really became best friends too. See, there are positives. You just have to search for them through your tears.

Gretchen