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About Me: I am the creative person behind Ribbonwood Cottage. A mother, wife and grandmother. My goal in life is to leave a lasting legacy to my family that life is incredible. God gave us this one life and it is worth the journey! A believer. A pianist, church music and worship director. Focused on intentionally living the best life possible.

September 10, 2008

5 years ago today


This morning I got up with my daughter and left to get her some gas. As I passed our house I noticed how dark the upstairs was...where our boys' bedrooms are. I thought to myself...5 years ago ALL the lights in the house were on...we got up at 5 for them to leave by 6:15 to get to zero block for band. 5 years ago I complained about...
having to still make their lunches since we live so far away and they were gone until evening with football, soccer or piano lessons.
I complained about all the laundry...chore clothes, uniforms, school clothes, and all those socks!
I complained about all the computers, chords, ipods, phones, bags, books...left on the table.
I complained about going through a gallon of milk a day...groceries would last a few days because they ate like a herd of cattle at new bales of hay!
There were always messes in the house, laundry to be done, homework strewn through the rooms...
My middle son practicing the piano in the early morning while we watched the news and weather for the day...
5 years ago the things I complained about the most...
I now miss the most...
I miss the commotion, the morning sounds of kids in the house...
looking for socks...


I miss my boys giving me hugs in the morning, telling me what their plans for the day were, asking me for money...
This one here...



I have a few months left with all her soccer commotion, boyfriend ups and downs, helping her with creative writing... hearing her laugh...
5 years ago I remember getting a phone call after football practice, about 5:30 pm, "mom we're on the way home." Today, that's the thing I think I miss the most...is them coming home everyday.


I'm blessed because my boys call home from college, I taught them at 2 years old to say "I love you mommy and you're beautiful", they still say it. But I wanted them to be comfortable saying it, because I knew one day they would say it to their wives, and I didn't want them to stumble over those words.


Can you tell? I'm missing my college kids.


Thanks for stopping by,

Debbie

25 comments:

Linda - Behind My Red Door said...

When we first became empty nesters, it was all too quiet here as well. But as they established their own homes, it got better because I now I can envision them in their morning routines in their own homes. Some how that is easer than when they were at school. Now I love the quiet for the most part and their visits are extra special. It sure helps that they are 5 and 15 minutes away though!!

Kitty Scraps said...

Your post today brought a tear to my eyes, it's so heartfelt. Your children are beautiful. My one and only child is still at home going to college and I sometimes fuss about stuff that doesn't really matter, thank you for reminding me of what's really important.

Nancy Sabina said...

Just stopping by to say HI and get to know you a little. I just won that beautiful scarecrow quilt for Nie Nie. Thanks for donating it. I'm definitely bookmarking your blog to come visit more often. I love some good fall decorating! It's almost as fun as Christmas decorating!

carolyn@simple~primitive~devotion said...

Bless your heart! I feel for you. I think as the nest empties, it is such a big change for us. We only have one daughter and when she left home, it was to get married. It was very hard on us! Sometimes we just do not see the blessings that are right in our face! So we need to learn from this. Thanks for such a sweet post!

Cathy Miller said...

What a timely post for me! I was fussing yesterday about spending $230 for ONE WEEK'S groceries for three growing boys. Now I feel ashamed and determined to enjoy them...especially since they were late in life babies and we are OLD parents! Thanks for the reminder! Your children are gorgeous! God bless you..found you through the tablescapes link, now I'll be a regular! Check out the Holiday Hamlet when you get a chance!

Georgia Girl said...

Oh I remember those days but you know what I had another one late in life so I still get to get those days even when I am in my walker. heheheh...but yep I miss my oldest and sit back and think of all the things we did. Great post!

Something Nice and Pretty said...

Oh, I know where you are coming from believe me, I have two married and two boys who are not but are living on their own.
I remember the laundry basket filled with all those white socks and sitting there trying to figure out whose were whose.LOL
After reading your post I'm tearful but also thankful that I made it thur that season of my life with four wonderful kids and my reward for that? Three beautiful grandaughters:)
Rondell

Kim@Seasons of My Heart said...

I'm now just embarking on this new season of our lives...our daughter Ashley flew out this past Sunday to spend her 2nd year participating in YWAM in Maui! I thought the 2nd year she left would be easier...but it wasn't.

One down, and one to go...our Andrew is a Junior...and HUGE into sports...so I can totally relate to the late night practices, wanting money, computer cords, ipod cords strung all over the house...and I'm enjoying EVERY minute of it!! Thankfully, I STILL get my morning hug from my boy....at least...for a few more years.

Ok..I need a kleenex! sigh :-/

Darlene said...

You have a BEAUTIFUL family. I had my daughter late in life so I get to still enjoy her at home. I am learning how quickly their childhood passes by though. Sounds like your kids are fabulous and you can always look forward to their visits...when they come home.

Melissa Martin said...

What a beautiful post. It really makes me stop and enjoy the chaos going on here for now. Thanks for the reality check.

Your family is beautiful! I'm sure you hear that all the time.

Unknown said...

Hi Debbie,
Your post made me tear up....life just moves too fast doesn't it.

Your post reminds me to keep my priorities straight!

It's almost like you have to reinvent yourself.

One note here...sometimes when they return for long periods of time, you can see that they are happier in their own lives, and it's better for them and you when they leave again.

We raise them to be independent and responsible adults, and we take comfort in the fact that we've done a good job with them.
diane

Tammy ~ Country Girl at Home ~ said...

Oh Debbie...you made me get all these tears in my eyes! I still have my college boy living here at home! But...I treasure all those moments you talked about!

Your children are beautiful and what a nice thing (and reason) to teach your kids to say! I love it!

Have a beautiful day!
Tammy

Vickie said...

Welcome to the club! I'm with you, dear. My two sons were gone, my baby girl left this semester. It's quieter at our house. Still messy, tho. Son #2 came back home for a semester or two. I miss all those times, too, the mess, the noise. Our house seemed to be the house that all the kids gathered at. We had a huge grocery bill, huges messes, and now I'd give anything to have those days back!

I found your site today and bookmarked it. Love your cottage home! We are about finished re-doing our family farmhouse and I was very interested in yours. Stop by sometime! Vickie

Robin Beck said...

Hold on Debbie, it really won't be too long before they are all getting married and your house will be full of babies again!
That's where we're at now...
Each season of life is a blessing-Some seasons harder than others though-God Bless you.
Robin~♥
P.S. You have a BEAUTIFUL family!

Susie from Bienvenue said...

I know they grow up too darn fast! Your kids are just beautiful!!! You too!

Sue said...

Your post brought back memories of days when I would feel the same way. I still have a hard time when my son comes home and leaves or we visit and I leave, but I tell myself as long as he is happy that's the way it is supposed to be. At least my daughter lives close by. Your children are beautiful.

Anonymous said...

Very handsome family you have Debbie and your daughter is stunning...I bet she takes after her Mom. :) I love the topiaries. Are they by your front door? Sometimes I can still hear my boys calling me. I cherish the quiet here at home now but I cherish their visits as well. :) And yep, they are 30 and 33 and I still cry every single time they come home and leave.

The Berry's Patch said...

Okay, now I want to cry. I complain about socks too. Debbie, you have such a beautiful family. You have done such a good job raising them! Soon you will have grandchildren to make some noise for you. :-)

Katherine said...

I miss our five children as well. It comforts me to know they are doing well and we now have three grandchildren. I tell all young moms that their busy days will pass very quickly. You have a great blog and a lovely family! I'm working on a blog of my own and I love the daily inspiration from others. God Bless
Katherine

abeachcottage said...

OMG you made me cry! all that noise and commotion I complain about too, I can't imagine what it'll be like when they are gone

what a beautiful post

Sarah

Leslie said...

Ahhhh.....I try to enjoy even those crazy moments that you are talking about. I can see now how fast time flies already and others are always telling to enjoy it while I still can....

Trace Adkins "You're Gonna Miss This"...that's what you need to listen to :) Oh, and Kenny Chesney's "Don't Blink"...it makes me cry!

Enjoy your last few months of craziness. But before you get really sad...remember there are busy days to come. You'll have grandkids running through your house and keeping you on your toes ;)

Hugs!

Tina said...

Thank you so much for sharing. We just sent off our amazing daughter to college and I miss her so. I dig her and enjoy being around her. We still have 2 wonderful 12 yr old boys at home and I am so thankful for that. This is the girl that wasn't suppose to have kids. I am blessed and thank for reminding me.
Tina

jennykate77 said...

What a great post! I'm a mom of a four-year old, so I can't say that I know the feeling or anything like that, but I can say I've thought that far ahead. I don't like to though, because it makes me sad. I'm glad for posts like this because it makes me hold these time close to my heart and cherish them each step of the way. Thanks for sharing! You children are beautiful!!! Glad I ran onto your blog!

Jenny

Lori said...

Oh my I do know what you mean. I recently also made a post about my son leaving for college. It never gets easy. Wonderful post!

Ms. Tee said...

what a sweet post. The time goes by so quickly, and I know it will be here soon for me as well. My heart goes out to you. :)